Author of You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma & Shame and Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide for Separation, Liberation & Inspiration
focus on being a joy and a delight to yourself...
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...rather than on being a disappointment to her. If it's hard, remember, not only were you taught not to focus on being a joy and a delight to yourself, you were probably actively discouraged from it. From earliest childhood those of us socialized as women were taught and persuaded to survey everything we are and everything we do in terms of how we appear to others. Our own sense of being in ourselves is supplanted by a sense of being appreciated by others. Others act and we...appear. Others look at us. We watch ourselves being looked at. This determines not only most relations between men and women, but also the relation of women to themselves and to other women, including our mothers and daughters. It is never too late to be focused on being a joy and a delight to yourself. This is the work of re-parenting on a deep level and I share an exercise that will help you do it in the next Cycle Breaker Summit (complete with a downloadable worksheet). This free event runs December 9 - 12. Click here to get your free ticket. Much, much love, Karen |
Karen C.L. Anderson
Author of You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma & Shame and Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide for Separation, Liberation & Inspiration
She “breaches etiquette.” She doesn’t keep the peace. She doesn’t smile in the face of violence and abuse. She doesn’t protect her abuser. She doesn’t keep their secrets. She doesn’t try and make everyone else comfortable. She doesn’t reconcile, forgive, or speak in platitudes. She lets his “concession call” go to voicemail. She owes him nothing. She owes her mother nothing. I’m speaking of Dr. Amy Acton, Governor-elect of Ohio. I’m speaking of me. And you. ~~~ Do you know what traumatic...
Have you ever tried to get rid of shame? And then failed? And then felt shame about your shame? Watch this. Much, much love, Karen
Have you ever tried to get rid of shame? And then failed? And then felt shame about your shame? Watch this. Much, much love, Karen