a quick note to let you know...


...that you can now join the Shame School Community on a monthly subscription basis ($75/month, cancel any time).

  • Format: Community Zoom calls several times a month at various times to accommodate different schedules and timezones, for connection, coaching, questions, discussion, and celebration
  • Community: The Shame School Community is hosted on the Heartbeat platform, which includes comprehensive course material (see next bullet), a place to gather and share, and a calendar of all calls and special events
  • Course: Brief lessons, writing prompts, practices, resources, and tools all designed to help you create safety, intentional identity, and healthy boundaries

The Shame School Community is for you if...

  • you want to be able to identify, navigate, and change your relationship to internalized shame
  • you want to decenter your mother
  • you want to set boundaries like a boss
  • you don't want to see yourself as a problem to be fixed and prefer a non-clinical approach
  • you feel "stuck" in a particular area of your life
  • you are tired of feeling defensive
  • you want to trust yourself
  • you are tired of complaining
  • you want to improve the relationships that matter most to you
  • you are fearful that you are, in a way that you don't want to be, just like your mother
  • you have fears about self-expression
  • you like to be on a learning/healing journey
  • you are curious and like to experiment
  • you like to take your time with concepts
  • you like to discuss ideas with like-minded people
  • you want to model a more shame-free life for your kids
  • you want to experience more unmitigated joy and delight

Read more about the Shame School Community here.

Much, much love,

Karen

Karen C.L. Anderson

Author of You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma & Shame and Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide for Separation, Liberation & Inspiration

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