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Read more about the Shame School Community here. Much, much love, Karen |
Author of You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma & Shame and Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide for Separation, Liberation & Inspiration
In 2019, after the Christchurch shooting in New Zealand, there was a photo of then New Zealand Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern wrapping her arms around the survivors of that shooting. I shared with you then that when I saw the photo I was reminded that we live in a time so lacking in unconditional Mother Love. ~~~ We are still living in that time. ~~~ And Dolly? "The fact that a single human being could spend over sixty years in the global spotlight and leave behind a spotless record of...
Your mother is not entitled to decide that her desire for a "yes" invalidates your right to say "no." She may have reasons that are completely valid and your answer can still be "no." And: She's allowed to be disappointed. She's allowed to think you're unreasonable. She's allowed to wish you had answered differently. She's even allowed to complain about you. Kindness isn’t kindness when she has already decided you’re required to provide it. Practicing this reminds me that sometimes another...
I got a lot of responses to Showing My Work, in which I gave a brief accounting of what's happened between my mother and me in the past five years; wrote about a recent conversation with her in which I fawned; and how I noticed it and handled it. My mother's increased contact with me is showing me exactly where my growth is and y'all want the details :-) A week later, I had a very different conversation with her. This time when she called, I was busy and didn't answer. She asked me to give...