Author of You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma & Shame and Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide for Separation, Liberation & Inspiration
shame deserves community, not isolation
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If you've been thinking about joining the Shame School Community but are hesitating, I've got you. I will be hanging out on Zoom on Thursday, February 19 at 1 p.m. Eastern and then again on Tuesday February 24 at 4 p.m. Eastern. Come say hello, meet me, and get your questions answered. I would love to get to know you (even if just a little bit :-). Click here to add the February 19 call to your calendar Click here to add the February 24 call to your calendar I don't do pressure. Much, much love, Karen P.S. Here are answers to common questions/concerns y'all have: “What if I don’t have the bandwidth for something else right now?” This is not an obligation, it is a flexible place to pause and to be more intentional with what's already on your plate. Yes, the Shame School Community is a year long, but it's not a to-do list and you get to choose which of multiple calls per month you want to attend. We don't hustle in the Shame School Community, we slow down. We remember who we are and what we want, not who we think we should be and not what we think we should want. "I’m afraid I won’t follow through.” I designed the Shame School Community so that it doesn't require more than an hour or two a week (if that). It's not about massive amounts of information to digest but rather about practicing and being reminded, over and over and over again, because that's what creates change. Transformation is the imperfect process of allowing yourself to be uncomfortable enough – in as safe a way as possible – to see, know, and experience yourself, someone else, or a situation differently, so you no longer suffer. “I should be able to do this on my own” / "How is this different than doing it on my own?" Independence isn’t freedom if it keeps you trapped in your own head. Shame will always have you believing you don't have needs and that seeking support is weakness. Shame deserves community, not isolation. "I just want to focus on the practical, like setting boundaries with my mother..." The work we do in the Shame School Community will have you setting boundaries like a boss...the kind of boundaries that are rooted in your values and that speak for themselves. "Can I spread the $750 payment over several months?" Yes. Just let me know and we'll make it work.
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Karen C.L. Anderson
Author of You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma & Shame and Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide for Separation, Liberation & Inspiration
That moment when someone with narcissistic behavior (who has no idea about your mother, your background, or what you do for a living) tries their shit on you and you're like "hold my beer." ~~~ I live in a small, relatively new neighborhood with 14 homes and a Homeowner's Association (HOA), which is required because there are seven acres of common area that need to be maintained according to the town's ordinances. From the get-go there's been ONE neighbor who seems hellbent on making trouble:...
After two-and-half years of no contact, my mother reached out to me via email. I had a feeling I might hear from her after I received a call from an ER nurse in the town where my she lives (300 miles from where I live). My mother doesn't know the nurse called me. At the time, I did nothing, as nothing was being asked of me. In her email to me, she said she wanted to have a conversation about her future plans as she is getting older and asked me to call her, which I did. We had basically the...
Today (January 31) is the last day to save $250 and get a bonus 1:1 session with me when you join the The Shame School Community. The Shame School Community is a 52-week excursion into the heart of shame: what it is, where it comes from, the myths around it, how it impacts us, and how we can transform our relationship to it and live (mostly*) free from it(*I can't promise complete and total freedom, but I can tell you that when when it does show up it won't impact you the same way) The Shame...