The Shame Whispereruthor of You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma & Shame and Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide for Separation, Liberation & Inspiration
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I have a like/dislike relationship with AI. I dislike it for a few reasons, not the least of which is that four of my copyrighted books were illegally downloaded from pirated databases to "teach" AI large-language models. There's also a bit of "I'm old and can't deal with the pace of technology so get off my lawn" energy in there too. ;-) I like it because it allows us to do things like this. This is my current self holding my four-year-old self (if you want to make one for yourself, keep reading). Here are the two photos I used: Here's the how-to: Open Google Gemini. Click the "tools" tab and scroll to "create images." Drop the images into the Gemini "terminal." Then add this prompt. Make a picture taken with a Polaroid camera. The photo should look like a childhood photo, without a clear subject or property. The photo should have a slight blur effect and a consistent light source, such as a flash from a dark room, scattered throughout the photo. Do not change the faces. Replace the background behind the two people with a white curtain. The child is hugging the adult. The adult is holding the child. I would LOVE to see yours. Much, much love, Karen |
Karen C.L. Anderson
The Shame Whispereruthor of You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma & Shame and Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide for Separation, Liberation & Inspiration
[AITA = Am I The Asshole, which, as far as I can tell, had its genesis on Reddit in 2013 and became a place for people to post about their real-world interpersonal conflicts and receive advice and judgement from fellow redditors. Did you know that advice columns have been around since 1690?] A reporter sent out a query asking for input on this question and I wanted to share my response with you because most of us are walking around hoping that we're not the asshole. And what if there was a...
...and blame isn't universally bad or wrong, and it's something we are often shamed for. [this is a long one] Remember the conversation I had 20-ish years ago with my father-in-law, who was a soft-spoken, unassuming, wise Lutheran pastor originally from Canada? If you're new to my world, here it is (and if you know this story, there's a new twist): I was telling him about the difficult relationship I had with my mother and what I might do to make it better (i.e., have an honest conversation...
"It's hard not to be on the defensive, after a lifetime of being defensive," she said."Of COURSE you're defensive...it makes all the sense in the world that you're defensive," I replied. "I'm defensive, too.""Oh wow...why do I feel like crying with relief?" she asked."Because you've been making yourself wrong for being defensive," I answered. "Getting mad at yourself for being defensive is like getting mad at yourself for shivering when you're cold. We're biologically wired for it.""It feels...