defensive?


"It's hard not to be on the defensive, after a lifetime of being defensive," she said.

"Of COURSE you're defensive...it makes all the sense in the world that you're defensive," I replied. "I'm defensive, too."

"Oh wow...why do I feel like crying with relief?" she asked.

"Because you've been making yourself wrong for being defensive," I answered. "Getting mad at yourself for being defensive is like getting mad at yourself for shivering when you're cold. We're biologically wired for it."

"It feels like you just pulled a thread that will unravel so much shit I haven't known what to do with," she added.

"That's my specialty. And the good news is...it's now yours, too."

Much, much love,

Karen

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Author of You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma & Shame and Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide for Separation, Liberation & Inspiration

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